What to say
- How are you feeling today?
- I don’t know what to say…
- This must be so hard for you…
- I can’t imagine what you are going through, but I wanted to let you know that I’m here if you’d like to talk. I’m not sure what to say, but I’m here to listen
- Recall a positive memory about the person who died
- Is there anything I can do to help you?
- I miss (name of the person who died)… how are you?
- Can I take you anywhere that would help? (doctors, shopping, appointments etc)
- Would you like to go for a walk together?
What not to say
- Avoid using clichés such as “They are in a better place” “Time heals everything” “they are at peace now”
- Avoid using phrases such as “It was God’s will” “Life goes on”
- I know how you feel…
- Avoid talking a lot about your own experiences, especially if they are not suicide bereavement
- Avoid asking for details about the death itself, such as how the person died
- Phrases that could be seen as judgemental, such as “they were selfish to do that” “they took an easy way out”